How Soon After A Loved One Passes Can I Receive A Mediumship Reading?
“For those who love with heart and soul there is no such thing as separation.”
—Rumi
Losing a loved one, whether family, friend, or otherwise, is one of the most difficult experiences of life. Questions such as, “are they ok?” or “are they still with me?” are common as the reality of the physical loss sets in. Some may also feel some urgency to hear from their loved one. Are our loved ones able to communicate immediately after passing, and if so, when is the appropriate time to receive a mediumship reading?
The first answer is yes, your loved one is able to communicate immediately after, and interestingly, sometimes even before they pass, particularly during their transition to Spirit, or even in cases of dementia or coma. As their consciousness adjusts to their new form of existence, they may spend time both here on earth, as well as “there” in the Spirit World.
A Medium working in the altered state of energetic and soul awareness can perceive your loved one because beyond the physical body, we are, have always been, and always will be, souls. As souls, we are energetic beings, consciousness eternally connected to, and never separated from, the divine. It is the soul of your loved one that is able to communicate from across the veil, and there is no delay in the ability to do so. Upon transitioning to Spirit, we are simply shedding our physical bodies, changing from one form of energetic expression to another.
Does this mean you should immediately seek a mediumship reading? The answer to this is not as straightforward, and depends on several factors. There is no hard and fast rule, but the general rule of thumb is that it is best to wait until six months after the passing. The reason for this lies not with your loved one, but rather, in what is best for you in your grief journey.
In order to get the most out of your reading, it is recommended that you be at a place in your grief where you are able to be fully present in the reading to receive and validate the evidence, as well as to process the messages of love and support your loved one brings. Depending upon the circumstances of the passing, you may feel ready for a reading soon after, particularly if the passing was anticipated and there was time to come to a peaceful acceptance. More often however, coming to terms with the passing and the physical absence of your loved one usually involves some passage of time. There is no set timetable for grief; however, having a reading too soon can highlight the fact that your loved one is no longer physically present, and this can enhance your grief if you are still in the early stages of adjusting to the loss.
Mediumship in its highest form is intended to bring about a joyful reunion, to provide evidence of survival, and to share healing messages of love and comfort from your loved one. Grief that is fresh and heavy can sometimes impact the conditions necessary for a strong connection, and while a reading under these circumstances is certainly still possible, it may be more beneficial and more healing for you to connect with your loved one at a later time.
It is worth noting that in the days and weeks directly after a passing, you may find that you spontaneously experience signs that your loved one is around. You may even feel their presence with you. Receiving this type of contact from your loved one can provide comfort to you even outside of a formal mediumship reading. It is not uncommon for signs, synchronicities, and feelings of presence to be quite prolific in this early stage. Do not worry if you can’t sense your loved one, as the subtle language and ways of Spirit can take some getting used to. Their signs and attempts to get your attention can be easily missed during the fog of acute grief.
Your loved ones are there to support, encourage, and send their love to you whether you are aware of them or not. As time goes on, keep an open mind and an open heart, invite them to be with you, and speak to them through your words and your thoughts. If you receive a sign or an indication of their presence, acknowledge it and thank them, and you will start to experience more as you both adjust to this new way of being. Remember, your loved one is connected to you through love, and they are eager to let you know they are ok, still around you, and still part of your life. They can accomplish this both by communicating with you through a Medium, or to you directly, soul to soul.
